How I Can Help
I offer the supportive and confidential space in which we can work together to think about the issues that may be adversely impacting on your life and why it is you are feeling as you do. With this increased understanding of yourself, comes the opportunity to make changes that can really help you to move your life on.
What To Expect
Your reason for seeking out therapy is unique to you, but in the end, what brings anyone to therapy is a sense that life feels difficult in some way.
Some people come with a clear idea about what it is that is causing them difficulty. It may be that they are dealing with a life event such as the end of a relationship or the loss of a job, or perhaps they know that they are stuck in patterns of behaviour they feel powerless to change. For many others, the ‘reason’ for considering therapy is not so clear. They may be struggling with complex feelings that they find hard to articulate, or they just know that on some level they feel anxious or unhappy with how life is right now.
Whatever the motivation, I offer the opportunity to explore those difficulties in the context of a kind and collaborative relationship.
It is important to understand that a therapist’s job is not to cure you of anything or to solve your problems for you. That may sound unhelpful, but when you think that life, inescapably, involves having to navigate our way through day to day problems, as well as bigger issues, it is a poor therapist who offers you solutions. That route only leads to dependence on the therapist.
A good therapist, instead, helps you to equip yourself better to navigate those current and future hurdles. Working at a pace that you dictate, the therapy room offers the space in which to reflect on why you think, feel and respond in life as you do. In this way, as your understanding of yourself grows, so does the opportunity to make different choices for your life, so as to better get your needs met. Good therapy helps you to develop your autonomy, and with it your resilience. With the help of the right professional, therapy can be an incredibly empowering and reparative process.
To paraphrase Maya Angelou, “ When you know better, you do better”.
I am a qualified Psychotherapist and registered member of both the UKCP and BACP, which means that I adhere to the requisite ethical standards of those governing bodies.
My training is from the Humanistic school. It's an optimistic and empowering philosophy that says that we are not stuck with the lives we have. Whatever challenges we currently face, whatever sadness, anger or frustration we are carrying around with us, we have it within us to change our experience. This transformative philosophy is what I draw on in my work, to empower clients to live more of the life they want to be living.
Before I entered the world of therapy, I had a couple of other lives, starting my working life as a lawyer, before moving onto a career in documentary television. The curiosity about the human condition that underpinned my life in TV, is the same curiosity that led me to retrain in psychotherapy.
I think that my own professional background puts me in a unique position to understand not only how hard it can be to keep our heads above water at work when we are struggling with issues outside of it, but also, how demanding work environments and the often dysfunctional dynamics that go with them, can bring tremendous pressure to bear on us.
It may help you to know, in your search for a therapist, that in the end, whatever the skill set or experience of the therapist, all the evidence shows that the key to change lies in your desire for change and also in the quality of the therapeutic relationship. In other words, if you don’t feel comfortable with your therapist, if you have no rapport with them, if you don’t feel like they “get you”, then therapy is very unlikely to be effective, so it’s vitally important that you find the right person for you (even if it's not me).
This is not an exhaustive list, but these are some of the areas I work with:
Work Stress & Burn Out
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Where are you based?
I am currently only working with clients online. I use Vsee, Skype and Zoom depending on client preference. I offer various appointments across the week, daytime and evenings.
How much do sessions cost?
My rate is £90 per session. Unlike a lot of therapists, I do not tend to work with clients in a long term way (years). My hope for you is that in working together in a focused way, you will get the support you need to move your life on sooner rather than later.
How long do sessions last?
Sessions last fifty minutes. They are usually fixed for the same day and time each week but I am able to accommodate flexibility based on client needs. The timing of sessions is strict, so that if you are late to your session, I’m afraid that it will still need to end on time so as not to impact on the rest of my schedule. If you are running late for any reason, please try to text, call or email me to let me know.
How long do we work together for?
This is a difficult question to answer here. It very much depends on what you are hoping to get from therapy. In our first meeting we will discuss what your overall aims might be, and then agree an initial period for working together. It may be that as we progress, issues emerge that you wish to explore and we can then reassess the direction and duration of our work together, but as I mention under Session Costs, I try to help a client to get what they need from therapy in a time frame that works for their life.
Once we have agreed to work together, I will reserve your weekly slot for you.
If you need to cancel one of our sessions please give me as much notice as you can. Similarly, if I need to cancel a session for some reason I will endeavour to give you as much notice as possible. Where possible I will try to offer you an alternative time.
You will not be charged for a cancelled appointment, but if you repeatedly book and cancel sessions, that will necessitate a discussion about charging for the inconvenience if I am holding a slot open for you. I may, in that instance, ask that you pay 50% of the session fee.
I will endeavour to give you no less than two weeks notice of any holidays I intend to take, and I would ask the same of you.
You do not pay for sessions missed due to holidays. If you are going to be taking a break of longer than three weeks, we would have to discuss whether I was able to keep your slot open for you.
I require advance payment by bank transfer 48 hours in advance to secure the first session.
After that, payment can be made online, ideally in advance of the session.
What can I expect from my first session?
It is perfectly normal to be a little apprehensive, but the first session is really for us both to find out more about each other and to decide if the therapy I offer would be suitable for you and your needs. If you feel that it might be, we can agree on an initial period of work together and the remit and focus of that.
This Privacy Statement explains how I, Tamara Abood, of thinktamara.com, use and protect any information that you may give me if and when we work together.
I may change this Policy from time to time, and I suggest that you regularly check this page to ensure that you continue to be comfortable with the measures that I am taking to protect your privacy.
Under the General Data Protection Regulation 2018 (GDPR), the lawful basis that I use for storing and processing your personal data is Contract. This is because I am providing you with a service and I require some information to be able to provide you with that service.
How is your data stored?
All of my records are kept on paper in a locked filing cabinet. I will keep your phone number and email stored on my phone, which is only accessed by me and is password-protected.
Occasionally I might want to make an audio recording of your session for the purpose of monitoring my work, but this would only occur with your prior knowledge and permission. Again, this data would be securely stored on a password-protected laptop and destroyed after use.
How long is your data stored for and how is it disposed of?
Your session notes, contracts, contact sheet and privacy agreement will be kept for five years from the date of our last session. After this date, this paperwork will be shredded.
Any communication between us by email or text will be deleted as soon as the messages are no longer relevant. For example, if you email me to rearrange an appointment I will delete that email as soon as the appointment has taken place. This applies whether you are someone making an initial enquiry about my service or an ongoing client.
To ensure open exploration of the concerns that have brought you to therapy, I maintain confidentiality in accordance with the BACP Ethical Framework (2018) - see www.bacp.co.uk.
There are, however, exceptions to the duty of confidentiality which you should be aware of:
In which situations can your data be shared?
There are occasions when I may share your information with other professionals. These are:
If I do share information about you, I will always aim to discuss it with you first, unless the situation requires an immediate response. If I am required to release information before discussing it with you, I will inform you at the earliest opportunity, except in the case of information relating to criminal activities.
I will never share your data for any reason other than the reasons stated above.
Access to information
Under the General Data Protection Regulation 2018 you can request access to the personal information that I hold about you. I will provide this except in the limited circumstances in which I am permitted not to. I will respond to any such request made by you within one month of the request being made.
You may request amendments to the personal information I hold about you that is inaccurate or out-of-date. If you request that I delete your personal information, I will take all reasonable steps to do so unless I need to keep it for legal, auditing or internal business purposes.
Complaints, questions, comments and access requests are to be addressed to:
Tamara Abood (Data Controller)
Data Protection Registration Reference: ZA287436
If you are not happy with the way I use your data, you can also contact the Information Commissioner's Office at: www.ico.org.uk